Enough Is Enough

Photograph by Artist: Le Fawn Hawk

In times of increased complexity it’s important to remember our lives contain a paradox.

On the one hand we are deeply interconnected with all living things on the planet.

On the other hand we are each distinct beings who contain the whole within us.

Everything in nature provides a purpose. 

Everything in nature has a remedy.

Everything in nature is in relationship.

We are no different than nature.

Sometimes we don’t have clear solutions right when we need them.

And, at the same time, we are always at choice about how we respond to the events in our life.

Lately, what I have been noticing is an increase of situations that are highlighting unconscious patterns around where we feel disempowered in our life due to a proliferation of stress in our day to day experiences.

Despite what we may sometimes think, we are in essence resourceful beings.

We have an infinite number of perspectives available to us. When we allow for them we can access a multitude of different ways to see and interpret our experience that can be clarifying, healing and empowering.

The positive side to embodied awareness is that when we feel grounded and centered in ourselves, we have access to a capacity for making new choices. New ways of being emerge out of these choices and help shift us out of habits that no longer fit who we are becoming.

The downside is that when we are not feeling grounded and centered we can feel overloaded and overwhelmed by what is going on in other peoples’ experiences. We can lose touch with what we know is good and true for ourselves first and forget what we actually need to function well and flow with change instead of feeling debilitated by it.

The fact that we must make room for multiple truths can at first be destabilizing, uncomfortable, and threaten the certainty we want to rely on.

However, when we can get curious about what is beneath the multiplicity and access what is deeply true, a healing (compassionate) response naturally arises and clarity becomes available.

Trying to blame our way through a difficult situation is rarely helpful. 

When we are caught up in cycles of blame and shame often it is unknowingly or habitual and when it is too uncomfortable to stay with what is true below surface tensions.

No matter how hard we try at being good enough, or how perfectly we try to accomplish it all, we will never be able to control the eventual outcome of what is to be.

We only have the power to choose our response to what is.

The world is endlessly changing.

You are endlessly changing.

Change is the constant.

Life is a process of change. 

So where do we go when we realize our effort can’t guarantee outcomes we want?

What happens when the only choice that remains is the one right in front of us - the one that appears less desirable?

We can face what isn’t working.

We can look at what’s hard.

We can tend to what is hurting.

All of your power, all of your freedom, all of your choice, resides in your capacity to respond.

To be self-responsible first.

To be able to respond with greater amounts of self-awareness, moment to moment, is the single most important practice we have.

It is what creates lasting change.

It is the prerequisite to helping others in ways we care about.

We are far more impactful in our work and available in our relationships, when we can show up and tend to the need that is right here within.

When we slow it all way down and pay attention to what we need, we find space, we access patience.

We cultivate the ability for choosing authentic solutions that align with what we truly long for in life.

We can hardly be a force for change in the lives of others if we do not move well with the flow of change in our own life.

When we are struggling to flow well with change, usually that indicates we need a deeper level of support.

For those of us who are deeply concerned for the well being of the collective experience, we can easily find ourselves consumed by the needs of others, and override our own need for support.

There is no shortage of need. That is clear.

What is more helpful is to become aware of how disregarding your true needs has impact.

When a crisis point reveals ways of being that no longer function well, it is time to consider how we respond and tend to the deeper needs within ourselves. Not just for ourselves, but we begin there.

This requires patience, self-awareness, compassion and discernment.

Self-responsibility grows our ability to respond inwardly first while offering an avenue for greater connection with others.

Can I first be with what I need?

Can I create steadiness and ease in my own experience, so that I can be a source of clarity for others in a way that creates real support?

Our actions are not noble or truly compassionate when we continually move past the boundary of what is healthy for us.

To be of real service to our clients and emotionally available for our loved ones we need to remember what is ours to tend to.

On March 27th from 1 to 3 PM I will be offering a live presentation on how we can compassionately work with our own emotions to create more clarity and ease in our personal relationships as well as authentic and healthy boundaries in our client work.

This free workshop is for you if you are finding your self at the crossroads of new questions for your life and work purpose, are a healing or creative professional looking for a supportive space to work through the resistance you may be feeling coming up in your client work and are seeking support for clarity in your personal relationship dynamics.

This workshop will be interactive so I hope you will bring requests for coaching with you.

In this workshop you will have a chance to receive coaching from Andrea directly as well as learn in an interactive space with others who are also on a path to deepening their self-awareness and healing work.

My hope is that this time together will provide you with tools for new possibilities in your client work and personal relationships. Moving forward with deeper knowledge about yourself (and your tendencies) so that you can experience greater ease with boundary setting (either personally or professionally) and enjoy all the ways you experience giving and receiving.

All are welcome. I hope you will join us!

RSVP HERE

With deepest love,

Andrea